I bet you have done this at least sometime recently…
Maybe you did unaware that it was this particular thing?
Or maybe you did it on purpose?…
Are you wondering what I am talking about?
I found a little report this week:
In 2004 Bella DePaulo, a visiting professor at the University of California, Santa Barbara, who specializes in studying forms of human deception, asked college students and members of the community-at-large to keep a notebook to tally up the number of lies they told in one week. By the end of the experiment, DePaulo found that the students had lied at least once to 38 percent of the people they came into contact with, while the community-at-large had lied to 30 percent of those with whom they interacted.
Based on her research, DePaulo insists that we all fall into one of two categories of liars:
Some of us are "self-centered liars"—we lie in order to make ourselves look better to others.
The rest of us are "other-centered liars"—we lie in order to avoid hurting someone else's feelings.
The experiment also found that the proverbial "white lie" was more often told to strangers; deeper lies were reserved for those the liar loved most.
"In everyday life, people are often telling lies," says DePaulo. "[It's] not to get something concrete that they want, like more money, but for psychological reasons… "Sometimes in our real lives, our valuing of honesty clashes with something else we also value, like wanting to be gracious or kind or compassionate."
Colossians 3:9 simple says...
Do not lie to each other,
since you have taken off your old self with its practices.
I have to be honest I have probably ‘lied’ many times as a christian.
And being someone who enjoys preaching and speaking I have to be careful not to embellish stories too much...otherwise I am in danger of making my ‘lies’ into other peoples truth.
No matter how you feel about this challenging thought today please know one thing...that no matter how much you may struggle with this, God has never changed his mind about you!
The key is to recognize that God’s heart is to give us the best life possible.
A life free from the things this world offers us and which can hurt us tremendously. Lying is one of those things that will ultimately hurt us, not help us.
I know I am going to be a little more careful!
Something to think about...
Article Courtesy : Brian Lowery, associate editor, PreachingToday.com; source: Jocelyn Voo, "Honestly, all of us are liars," www.cnn.com (1-21-08)
Thursday, February 07, 2008
Thursday, January 31, 2008
I sat with some friends at work the other day having lunch.
In that situation, I don’t know if you are the same as me, but I look around the table and see what others are eating.
One was eating sandwiches (that was me).
One was eating tuna from a can.
Another had a selection of fruits that would make you proud of their lunch choice.
And with any lunch time gathering...there is discussion.
Today stemmed around crazy or strange things that we have done in the past. Things like jobs where we have worn crazy costumes. Crazy situations we have found ourselves in.
On the first of January stuff.co.nz published an article on crazy stuff that happened in 2007 from around the world. Some of which included…
In an unusual living arrangement, a German man left his dead mother seated in her favourite armchair at their shared home for two years after her death of natural causes at age 92.
Yet not everything that smelled like a corpse was really dead in 2007.
In the German town of Kaiserslautern, police broke into a darkened flat expecting to find a corpse after neighbours complained of a nasty smell seeping out into the hallway.
But instead they found a tenant with very smelly feet asleep in bed next to a pile of extremely foul-smelling laundry.
Unusual diets made headlines in 2007 – such as: "No more crispy duck at Beijing toilets". Food stalls attached to Beijing's public toilets were banned ahead of the Olympics after complaints over toilets with poor sanitation.
Also in China, 66-year-old Jiang Musheng said 40 years of swallowing live tree frogs and rats helped him avoid intestinal pain and made him strong.
British artist Mark McGowan ate a meal of meatballs made from a dead corgi dog in a protest against animal cruelty. He said the corgi, which died from natural causes, tasted terrible.
British artist Mark McGowan ate a meal of meatballs made from a dead corgi dog in a protest against animal cruelty. He said the corgi, which died from natural causes, tasted terrible.
A German bus driver threw a 20-year-old off because he said she was too sexy for his bus. "He opened the door and shouted 'Your cleavage is distracting me every time I look into my mirror and I can't concentrate on the traffic'," the woman said.
Isn’t this what makes life just that little bit more interesting?
Personally I think God likes things that are strange.
Take the stories of what Jesus did at times. Like the time he made mud and stuck it in someone’s eyes to heal them.
What about Jonah getting swallowed by a whale and then getting spat out again?
What about the way God has brought salvation into the world?
If God wanted some strange definition of normal, I think he would have made us all the same. Nothing would surprise us.
In fact I think we would be boring and life would be boring.
I am grateful that Gods plans are way more cool and exciting than mine.
That he loves variety and the strange.
Just to make things that little bit more interesting.
Something to think about...
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Personally I think that a lot of what Jesus said on this earth was meant to be provocative and create a response.
At the very least it should cause us to think.Cause us to look a little deeper than the words and find out what God is really wanting to say to us.
Take something like what he said in the book of Luke...
“...anyone who does not carry his cross and
follow me cannot be my disciple.”
This week I was looking at this again and some thoughts hit me that I thought I should share with you…
So many times I focus on the negative.I look at the word cross and then think of death and sacrifice. It reminds me sometimes of what I need to lose and what I need to put aside.
In a sense that is right, but I have also realized this week that Jesus was saying so much more!
Jesus when he went to the cross took upon himself all the sin of mankind.
It was all the sin committed already, at the time, and sin for all mankind in the future. In fact it was so bad God ctually couldn’t look at his son for a moment in time.
Jesus paid the full price.
I also think when Jesus says to ‘carry our cross’ he is also referring to our struggles, those things we think make us weak. He isn’t saying to wait until thinks are feeling great before you pick up and walk. He simply wants you to get going…
That cross you pick up represents your sin and struggles being redeemed by God.
Many people say that they need help in certain areas before they can do something for God. But I can’t find anyone in history who has done anything amazing for God where they didn’t have personal issues they were working through.
William Wilberforce had health problems.
Martin Luther struggled with his faith.
The Apostle Paul said that he had a ‘thorn in his flesh’, that he had asked God to take away.
And Paul’s apprentice Timothy, seemed to struggle with stomach problems.
They never let their weaknesses dictate who they would be in God.
The took them up with their cross and went for it anyway.
If you don’t do the same, those struggles will hold you to one place.
They will be like a ball and chain attached to your ankle.
So this week, pick up your cross...and choose to go for what God has for you, no matter how weak or scared you feel.God promises to come through for you if you will.
In fact he even says that his strength is perfected in our weakness.
Something to think about...
At the very least it should cause us to think.Cause us to look a little deeper than the words and find out what God is really wanting to say to us.
Take something like what he said in the book of Luke...
“...anyone who does not carry his cross and
follow me cannot be my disciple.”
This week I was looking at this again and some thoughts hit me that I thought I should share with you…
So many times I focus on the negative.I look at the word cross and then think of death and sacrifice. It reminds me sometimes of what I need to lose and what I need to put aside.
In a sense that is right, but I have also realized this week that Jesus was saying so much more!
Jesus when he went to the cross took upon himself all the sin of mankind.
It was all the sin committed already, at the time, and sin for all mankind in the future. In fact it was so bad God ctually couldn’t look at his son for a moment in time.
Jesus paid the full price.
I also think when Jesus says to ‘carry our cross’ he is also referring to our struggles, those things we think make us weak. He isn’t saying to wait until thinks are feeling great before you pick up and walk. He simply wants you to get going…
That cross you pick up represents your sin and struggles being redeemed by God.
Many people say that they need help in certain areas before they can do something for God. But I can’t find anyone in history who has done anything amazing for God where they didn’t have personal issues they were working through.
William Wilberforce had health problems.
Martin Luther struggled with his faith.
The Apostle Paul said that he had a ‘thorn in his flesh’, that he had asked God to take away.
And Paul’s apprentice Timothy, seemed to struggle with stomach problems.
They never let their weaknesses dictate who they would be in God.
The took them up with their cross and went for it anyway.
If you don’t do the same, those struggles will hold you to one place.
They will be like a ball and chain attached to your ankle.
So this week, pick up your cross...and choose to go for what God has for you, no matter how weak or scared you feel.God promises to come through for you if you will.
In fact he even says that his strength is perfected in our weakness.
Something to think about...
Thursday, January 17, 2008
I have just been on a fantastic holiday with my family!
We had several weeks back down where I originally come from in Invercargill.
It was the first time in 7 years that the whole family had gotten together, so was a very special time for us.
My uncle was one of the family who met us at Invercargill airport on Christmas Eve.
He hasn’t changed much.
And true to form he wore his favourite sweatshirt. A thinning grey sweatshirt with Les Mesirables on the front.
He got it some 20 years a go while in the UK when he saw the stage show.
So here he is wearing that same old shirt.We joked about it.
He even wore again especially for me when he saw us off at the airport 2 weeks later.
Beyond the fact I am talking about an old sweatshirt...there is more meaning to it for me.
Les Mesirables is my favourite stage show!
I have seen it twice now and would watch it again!!!
I love the story, the story of how God can do something amazing in your life if you let him.
Stories like that inspire me!
I also watched a dvd called Amazing Grace over the break.
Again it is a story about what God did through one man in England many years ago. How even though he faced mounting health problems William Wilberforce was instrumental in removing the slave trade, plus many other social reforms to benefit the everyday people.
In fact I love any movie or story where someone has an amazing effect on other peoples lives. Movies like Forrest Gump, Mr Hollands Opus...the list goes on...
They wind my up big time!
They remind me that God can use anyone who is wanting to be used.
They remind me that my circumstances don’t have to be a restriction.
They remind me that I can do something special in this world!
Can I encourage you to start 2008 encouraged?
If you feel like it is just another year, that it is more of the same, then grab something to watch that will inspire you to believe for more.
Watch a great show or movie.
Grab a book about someone that God has used.
It could be just what you need right now?
We had several weeks back down where I originally come from in Invercargill.
It was the first time in 7 years that the whole family had gotten together, so was a very special time for us.
My uncle was one of the family who met us at Invercargill airport on Christmas Eve.
He hasn’t changed much.
And true to form he wore his favourite sweatshirt. A thinning grey sweatshirt with Les Mesirables on the front.
He got it some 20 years a go while in the UK when he saw the stage show.
So here he is wearing that same old shirt.We joked about it.
He even wore again especially for me when he saw us off at the airport 2 weeks later.
Beyond the fact I am talking about an old sweatshirt...there is more meaning to it for me.
Les Mesirables is my favourite stage show!
I have seen it twice now and would watch it again!!!
I love the story, the story of how God can do something amazing in your life if you let him.
Stories like that inspire me!
I also watched a dvd called Amazing Grace over the break.
Again it is a story about what God did through one man in England many years ago. How even though he faced mounting health problems William Wilberforce was instrumental in removing the slave trade, plus many other social reforms to benefit the everyday people.
In fact I love any movie or story where someone has an amazing effect on other peoples lives. Movies like Forrest Gump, Mr Hollands Opus...the list goes on...
They wind my up big time!
They remind me that God can use anyone who is wanting to be used.
They remind me that my circumstances don’t have to be a restriction.
They remind me that I can do something special in this world!
Can I encourage you to start 2008 encouraged?
If you feel like it is just another year, that it is more of the same, then grab something to watch that will inspire you to believe for more.
Watch a great show or movie.
Grab a book about someone that God has used.
It could be just what you need right now?
Thursday, December 13, 2007
December seems to lead to something special on our calendars…Something called Christmas.
But if there was a time of the year when your life may feel a little wobbly or not quite where it could be, it is now.
I thought we could take some time to reflect not on the season, but on our place in the Christmas season.
Our lives are like a bicycle wheel.
There are many spokes that make up the whole wheel and give it structure and stability. But if one of the spokes in our lives comes lose of fails, our lives tend to go the same way.
If you ignore a loose spoke it doesn’t get better. It always gets worse.
And eventually more spokes join in the activity until your wheel collapses.
Many of us wait until we are really sick before we get help.The reality is that if we ignore the small stuff, it sometimes grows into big stuff!
We ignore a small tooth ache until it becomes a root canal.
We ignore a something wrong on our skin until it becomes a growth.\
Here are 3 spokes for you to consider this Christmas time…
ONE. people spoke
Christmas wouldn’t be Christmas without there being people around.The people you relate too make or break your Christmas!
Romans 12:17-18
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
If you want to feel good over Christmas, make every effort to get along with others.
TWO. finance spoke
Putting yourself into large amounts of debt for any celebration, no matter how religious it is, is not a good idea.
My children can not remember what I got them each Christmas.What they do remember is what I was like on the day…how I behaved.
Matthew 6:20
Store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.
I know that when this spoke is loose in my life I don’t feel very good.It robs me of any peace and enjoyment.
THREE. God spoke
This is the most important of all!Without a relationship with God your life, your wheel, can take any shape.
Jeremiah 29:13-14a
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the LORD
God is not hiding from us. He is there if we want to spend time with him.We just have to purpose in our own hearts to have that time with him.
Set realistic goals. Don’t set yourself up to fail.
William Booth said “I do promise God that I will rise early every morning to have a few minutes – not less than five – in private prayer…I hereby vow to read no less than four chapters in God’s Word every day.”
Have a plan to spend what meaningful time you can with God.
Don’t just hope you will, otherwise others things will bury it.
I believe God’s plan for you over this Christmas is for your spokes to stay strong and true.
God’s heart is for you to have a great holiday season!
Don’t wait for the crash to happen in your life!
Take the time to resolve it now.
But if there was a time of the year when your life may feel a little wobbly or not quite where it could be, it is now.
I thought we could take some time to reflect not on the season, but on our place in the Christmas season.
Our lives are like a bicycle wheel.
There are many spokes that make up the whole wheel and give it structure and stability. But if one of the spokes in our lives comes lose of fails, our lives tend to go the same way.
If you ignore a loose spoke it doesn’t get better. It always gets worse.
And eventually more spokes join in the activity until your wheel collapses.
Many of us wait until we are really sick before we get help.The reality is that if we ignore the small stuff, it sometimes grows into big stuff!
We ignore a small tooth ache until it becomes a root canal.
We ignore a something wrong on our skin until it becomes a growth.\
Here are 3 spokes for you to consider this Christmas time…
ONE. people spoke
Christmas wouldn’t be Christmas without there being people around.The people you relate too make or break your Christmas!
Romans 12:17-18
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
If you want to feel good over Christmas, make every effort to get along with others.
TWO. finance spoke
Putting yourself into large amounts of debt for any celebration, no matter how religious it is, is not a good idea.
My children can not remember what I got them each Christmas.What they do remember is what I was like on the day…how I behaved.
Matthew 6:20
Store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.
I know that when this spoke is loose in my life I don’t feel very good.It robs me of any peace and enjoyment.
THREE. God spoke
This is the most important of all!Without a relationship with God your life, your wheel, can take any shape.
Jeremiah 29:13-14a
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the LORD
God is not hiding from us. He is there if we want to spend time with him.We just have to purpose in our own hearts to have that time with him.
Set realistic goals. Don’t set yourself up to fail.
William Booth said “I do promise God that I will rise early every morning to have a few minutes – not less than five – in private prayer…I hereby vow to read no less than four chapters in God’s Word every day.”
Have a plan to spend what meaningful time you can with God.
Don’t just hope you will, otherwise others things will bury it.
I believe God’s plan for you over this Christmas is for your spokes to stay strong and true.
God’s heart is for you to have a great holiday season!
Don’t wait for the crash to happen in your life!
Take the time to resolve it now.
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