#failedpastor Part Three - I failed to see what was coming…

We knew something was wrong for a while.

Maybe a few years before we stoped.

But we just couldn’t figure out what it was and why we felt that way.

So we talked about it at a leadership level.

We invited other leaders in to review things.

And we still couldn’t pinpoint the problem….

Essentially the experts told me everything was fine and to keep going because “the best was yet to come”.

Years removed we think have a better idea.

The problem was hidden behind my problem.

Being nice, overworked, exhausted and burned out clouded my vision and ability to see clearly behind the scenes.

Our Church was told the truth that was palatable for us all in that season.

Yes we were done and our tanks empty.

But the other side of the truth coin was we had a major church split.

What is that you might ask?

Where your key leaders and teams decide to leave, many times orchestrating a behind the scenes process that damages you and the faith family you helped build. And many times to launch something else with a different leader.

Sometimes it is framed in flowery religious terms, but division is the outcome and pain the guaranteed result.

We felt betrayed. Cut down. 

And when you add that to burnout, it is near impossible to recover from that position.

So we waved our white flag a withdrew as quietly as we could.

What did I learn from this?

What can you learn from this?

If I had handled my workload, had a better leadership practice, then maybe I could have seen what was coming and made changes.

Because I wasn’t in a good place, I wasn’t good enough in the moment to lead the way that was needed.

As leaders you have a responsibility to the people under you care.

But you also have a responsibility to yourself. To your family. And your relationship to God.

We all acknowledge that the relationship value order is like I have mentioned.

In practice, for many of us, including myself, the opposite becomes our reality over time.

The pressure to succeed that we place on ourselves and the weight of expectation can build.

Can I encourage to be the opposite of me?

- Look after yourself.

- Maybe have a supervisory counsellor you meet with everything single month.

- Plan breaks before busyness.

- Be honest with those you can truly trust.

Leaders we need you to make it. 

To be faithful, fulfilled and still following the call well.

I am praying for you!

Something to think about…

#failedpastor Part Two - I worked too hard!

Hard work is rewarded. I think most of us believe that sentiment.

I think we do because we know deep down and instinctively that the opposite, laziness, doesn’t achieve much.

Maybe you can quote verses about ants and being a sluggard?

But can you work too hard?

How much work is too much?

Part of the challenge is that you don’t have a literal rev gauge or a fuel gauge to see just how hard you are working and how much fuel you have in your tank.

Tied into this was my belief that if I worked really hard, didn’t give up, sacrificed, served with everything I had, then that would equate with success. If not right now, then it must be guaranteed for me one day…

Not long before it all came crashing down there was a particular meeting.

It was in a monthly Elders meeting. 

One of them announced that they had come to believe that the reason why we hadn’t grown as expected in that season was all because “I wasn’t working hard enough”.

I didn’t react calmly to that one…

Some months later, after 11 years in our Church, we had spent it all.

My tank was empty.

I realised too late I had probably been red lining my internal motor for a long long time.

I would like to think it was work ethic, my never give up, never surrender attitude.

But on reflection I was not as wise as I had hoped.

We crashed out. We lost all we felt we had worked for. 

To my shame I had 42 weeks leave I never took over that service period and lost that as well when the Church had to close.

My lesson.

Work hard, just not too hard.

Lift the foot a little off the accelerator because a little slower and surviving is far better than faster and speeding to a crash.

It was suggested to me some time before all this, that you should plan breaks before planning your year and the busyness.

Guess what, I didn’t. 

Why?

I think I was in too deep. 

Like a problem gambler who thinks it will all work out playing a bit longer.

I also felt like I needed to prove my worth.

Because the church me I owed them.

Unfortunately I discovered there is no medal for burning yourself out. It is not better to burn out than to fade away!

There was no ticker tape parade. Just pain and a lot of post event reflection.

How do you figure this out?

Find some people outside your “work” you can get decent analysis from. 

Listen to your family!

Compare your leadership practice a number of others who do similar things to see where you might sit.

Maybe you have some great suggestions for people like me?

I would love hear them!

Something to think about…

#failedpastor Part One - I wanted to be nice

I have learnt that being nice isn’t always the most loving thing to be or do. Because being nice all the time means you avoid some hard things and that is ultimately not “nice” to you and every one you lead.

You see I deep down hoped that being as nice as possible to everyone would mean I would be successful. 

It worked while it worked. 

And then failed me spectacularly.

I just couldn’t keep it up in the end…

My strategy of servant leadership on many levels created a doormat leadership, where others took advantage or boundaries were not kept in regards to my time and resources.

I am not anti servant leadership, but wisdom is super important to carry this model off.

As I reflect on the many meetings, coffees and they like I had with people…

I now think of the many times where I was nice to those who weren’t that nice to me.

Where they had a strange and sometimes wrong agendas that I tried to placate because I feared them, their influence, losing someone from our Church.

Jesus said what many consider a strange phrase, one I struggled to understand for many years to be honest.

“Do not throw your pearls to swine.

If you do, they may trample them under their feet.”

I think too many times I gave my Pearls to Swine.

This means to me giving my best, my most precious gifts, to those who didn’t appreciate them, to those who would be willing to denigrate what I could offer for their own twisted benefit.

People willing to trample me for what their hearts desired.

I not saying to be the opposite of nice and be a jerk.

It is just that being nice can’t be your only tool in your leadership toolkit.

As a leader…

The nicest thing to do is be truthful.

The nicest thing to do is deal with stuff or people or challenges.

Yes be gracious ripping off the bandaid.

Ans never ignore the wound.

I wish I hadn’t been so nice to those who probably needed something better from me in those moments.

I was scared, I recognise that and I own that.

Can I encourage you to still be nice, just be wise how nice and who you are nice too.

It is ok to be a leader and make tough calls.

And sometimes that won’t feel nice, but, it will be right.

Something to think about…

Get Ready for The Charismatic Reformation

The Church has been part of my life for the majority of my life.

As far back as I can remember, it began with going to a little country Presbyterian Church with my Mum or Gran until I went to High School.

My teenage rebel and wannabe rockstar years took me away, but only for a 6-7 year window.

Since 1991 I have been, attending, serving in and even for a long time, pastoring local Churches.

I guess that gives me some experience?

One of my most popular blogs I have ever written is an analogy about attending a wedding and comparing that with our attitudes towards the Church.

I still believe in it, warts and all.

And I am honestly a little nervous making comment about something Christ died for and that He appears to use to bring his individual people together, that He says He is coming back for.

And yet something else is also undeniable for me…

That sometimes as humans leading and being part of something divine/eternal, that mistakes can be made. To refuse to notice is naivety at best. Ignorance is not reality. That’s my opinion.

That next level to this to share is that most of my Church experience related to what people label the Pentecostal Church. When I was a kid they were referred to as “happy hand clappers”, to reference their worship expression being different from my more conservative and restrained expression growing up.

After giving my life to Christ in August 1991, the first Church I attended was this flavour.

While I wanted to be there, it was an initial shock and I wondered even if I had walked into a cult?

I changed my mind on that and got progressively more connected to the point I was serving as best I could in that faith family.

As of today I am nearly 6 years removed from leading a Pentecostal Church.

That has been a painful season and also cathartic.

It has given me time to have another perspective. 

To reflect on what it was like.

On what I think was good practice.

What I consider maybe not so good.

In all that I have never stopped seeking God, studying His Word, looking at the state of the world and how the Church operates within.

Which leads us to today…

And when I say today, I am talking about this time in history.

My current conviction is that we should be getting ready for The Charismatic Reformation.

Not because charismatic or pentecostal Church is evil, but because as humans we have made mistakes.

My belief is the Bride, the Church is always important to God!

It appears He gives us some wiggle room to make mistakes, but as we can see studying history, He never leaves it that way. When The Church is getting things wrong, a time appears on His calendar when God flicks the switch and change occurs. 

Think about what we regularly refer to as The Reformation.

Reflect on that moment when a famous Thesis was nailed to a Church Door.

Even reflect on the day of Pentecost.

God does something dramatic to arrest a trajectory, because you and His Church are important.

Don’t be shocked at what you may have noticed occurring around the western charismatic Church.

Honestly this has been brewing for years and I for one, while not liking the pain it has brought, am super grateful that the error is being exposed.

Some ministries that are being exposed have had questions around them, sometimes for decades.

Others I had contact with as a young leader and knew something wasn’t right, but had no avenue or authority to address it, are also having light shone on them.

That is why I believe we are entering The Charismatic Reformation.

I still believe in the full counsel of the Scripture.

I still believe in the gift of the Holy Spirit and “gifts” that come as part of that promise being fulfilled.

And I believe accountability and correction for where the humanness has encroached too far is being divinely addressed.

I believe we ultimately follow Christ, not man.

The tension is that Godly leaders as supposed to be in front of us, pointing us that way.

“I follow Paul and I follow Apollos” sentiment (1 Corinthians 3:4) has always arisen in the Church and it takes intention to weed that wrong thinking out.

I believe the Charismatic Industrial Complex is about to fall or at least shift.

Where fakery is exposed and true Holy Spirit ministry is promoted.

Where Kingdom Culture is not a means to financial gain for some, but blessing for all.

Where narcissistic weirdos are exposed for who they are and God’s people can experience freedom in Christ again.

Where the integrity of The Church is brought further back to where it should be.

Where the Church and not a brand or a “movement” takes precedence.

Where “Grass is Greener” promotion to draw a crowd from one Church to another is finally exposed and please excuse my crude analogy, has the green grass mowed.

Where kingdom building (man made ego projects) is replaced by the Kingdom advancing.

Can I encourage you not to be despondent?

God is still in control and He disciplines those He loves, that is you and His Church.

Pray. Watch. Don ’t over react to the news around you.

If you are being defensive, ask Him why?

Seek Him. 

Keep your heart open and soft along with a steadfast foundation in His Word.

It is still His Church, His Bride…

And He wants it back.

Something to think about…

5 Letter Greeks Words...That Could Change Your Life

I remember sitting in a lounge on a Sunday afternoon waiting on a special friend to get ready to go out. 

As strange as it might seem to some, I used to carry around a mini translation of the New Testament (back in the days before your phone could carry every Bible translation available).

As I occupied myself with a quick look through some passages, I came across something I can only describe as leaping out at me. Flying into my face and causing me to stop and think deeply.

It sounds dramatic doesn’t its it?

Like the words literally flying up in the air from the text in front of me.

It is quite common as I have seen, to refer to passages of scripture that garner your attention more than others and seem to generate a special connection in that moment.

These words in that moment felt somehow different, more impactful to me in that to the others before them or after them.

I didn’t at the time have an explanation for why this mattered or how it works beyond the strange idea that some words have wings. Words that can fly up from a page.

Later I came to learn that two different greek words are used in the New Testament when talking about the Bible.

Rhema & Logos.

The Bible says that all scripture is God breathed and useful for teaching, correcting.

The Logos Word of God, the whole counsel of scripture, is there for that express purpose.

Rhema is where the Logos becomes even more personal in a moment of reading it. It is where God speaks directly from the passage to your very soul. 

Sometimes it is like my experience that day, to encourage me in the way I needed in the moment.

Sometimes it is to correct.

This concept of Rhema seems to particularly freak out those who believe context only is king. Where they think that unless you read all of scripture in context alone, that you will get it wrong.

I believe context can be key, but it is not king.

The context as king philosophy robs you of something truly special, the ability for God to speak encouragement and even direction from his Divine Word.

Where God can give you personal encouragement, correction or direction.

It has been said that if you can study the Bible as the Logos, then God can then use that too speak the Rhema to you. And with a Logos foundation you can navigate the Rhema with a higher level of safety and security.

Can I encourage you have a healthy regular habit of reading the Bible (Logos) along with an equally healthy expectation that God might speak directly to you (Rhema)?

Those two little five letter greek words could indeed change your life.

Something to think about…